Mom I was punished in school today, I had a project to make & I missed on doing my home work with regards to the same yesterday, and teacher told me to get a note from my parents.
GO Ahead…I am Listening!!!! Do we really are? With life being so busy with multiple things happening all around us, with life being dominated with the laptops, iPads, iPhones, television, a million other high tech gadgets, are we really giving enough time to our children?
Don’t you feel many a times when our child is trying to reach onto us with their small things and they are just enthusiastic to share those events with us, we as parents are more involved in our digital world even at home? To us replying an email at home, making a presentation or an official concall is more important than just giving those few seconds to our children and listening to them giving them the feeling of we are here with you with mind, body and soul, listening to you fully.
Life has become so self-made complex these days that most of us are really unable to share quality time with our children. We may be present for hours at home but that’s of no use unless we are actually with them for them. The child needs to spend meaningful time with us. A friend of mine said to me when we were discussing about children and their different behaviors – “I do not end the day without communicating with them”.
I liked what she said but when we go deeper into this sentence, I feel it’s so deep a statement to make. As we all know communication is the key to any relation and so is it for us parents. I strongly believe now that how much ever we have busy lifestyle, we need to give that quality time daily to our children. We need to leave the stress both personal and professional behind when we are with them and at the same time re-assuring them that we love them.
We need not worry on spending minutes or hours with our children daily rather we need to focus on turning those minutes into memorable moments. Create those moments together! Play their games with them, it could be indoor or outdoor, bake a cake with them, prepare Maggie with them, go for some walks at night, Involve them in your work in their free time, grow a garden, have some drawing sessions together, work with them – wash your car together over a weekend, fix up a broken household stuff together, reading time – yes read books together, fix up a time, may be just an hour over a weekend for a drive with your child “Mom and Me time”, these are few simple things that can help us connect with your children to start with.
They say the best gift parents can give their children is their time. I so totally agree with it.
Children don’t need your presents; they need your presence – Complete YOU!
* Birthday card picture is the one I drew for my daughter on her birthday.
Anamika Sharma is blessed mamma to a 13 years old (recently turned teenager) Anshika and 9 years old Saamyak. 15 years in Aviation and telecom industry and then a break from a highly demanding corporate career for her growing children, she is now following her dreams – an amateur photographer, food stylist & blogger. She loves to cook for her family, something she missed all these years and blogs at Mad Cooking Fusions.