• lol! Loved the article! and I can totally relate. I myself am in a diaspora of multi-isms! Its funny that once a distant granny on my hubby’s side was worried about how we’d arrange our just born daughter’s marriage. Which community will you go to first,she wondered? I thought inside I hope I never have to answer or think about that question!

    • Roshni

      Yes, we’re not intending to make any kind of effort myself and am completely prepared for a Japanese spouse, as per all indications!! πŸ˜€

  • Oh the way the whole world wants to plan future of our kids…. πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚
    A post very much depicting how “The Times They are a Changin”

    • Roshni

      Isn’t it?! It would be nice if people also are more open-minded to it!

  • Great article and your punchline at the end Roshni was even better than I imagined, lol. Thanks for sharing your take here with us!! πŸ™‚

    • Roshni

      Thanks, Janine! Glad you liked it! πŸ™‚

  • This is fascinating! Both Hubbs and I come from families that long ago lost our mother tongues. (But really, who wants to learn Norwegian, anyway?) I envy your deep connection to the different places.

    • Roshni

      Thanks! I hope I can keep it up though I have a feeling that it will get eventually diluted. I’m okay with that!

  • I think the heritage that you are passing on to your boys is amazing. Your commitment to passing on the Indian culture (doing it in a way that works for you and your husband) is such a gift!

    • Roshni

      Thanks, Meredith!

  • I grew up in a diverse town in MA, but now live in the Midwest where my boys were born and raised. It was so disheartening for me to go from a diverse community to one where you are amongst the majority or you are just plain wrong (in term of religion, politics, etc). The assumptions are as disconcerting to me as your husband’s cousins were to you. Teaching my kids about diversity has been tougher than it should be, but a lesson well learned.

    • Roshni

      I’m sure it must be, Karen! I’m very happy to be where I am instead of a small town in India or the US where viewpoints are so narrow. I’m really impressed that you still managed to teach your boys about having a broad outlook to life!

  • You were brought up in Calcutta! Awesome! I’ve always wanted to visit that place. I LOVE the multicultural upbringing your children are getting. I was brought up multicultural, too: my mom had friends from Jamaica, Korea, Guatemala and my mom’s family is from Mexico. I had a lot of languages flying around to say the least. Awesome post!

    • Roshni

      Yup! Well, now that you know, you’re most welcome to visit my home there!! Calcutta is a lovely, dirty lady of a city!! πŸ˜€

  • Roshni,

    I absolutely love hearing about your multicultural background and how you and the hubs are raising your children to be intelligent and open-minded. Love it. πŸ™‚


    • Roshni

      Thank you, QC! It’s the whole village, thankfully! πŸ˜€

  • Your last line is what I feel all the time. I don’t see them having wives let alone children :). My husband is a Punjabi-Marathi Kannadiga and despite my in laws being fluent in Punjabi, Kannada and Marathi, they spoke Hindi at home :). And he picked up Telugu brought up as he was in Hyderabad. I am a UPite — shuddh Hindi πŸ™‚ brought up in Mumbai so I have a fair knowledge of Marathi now living in Bangalore where we have picked up Kannada. So, yes multicultural and multilingual is the name of the game! Isn’t it more fun to live with a person of a different culture? Loved the post!

  • Roshni

    oh no, I see that my last line was ambiguous! What I meant was, I believe that I/we should stop stereotyping that men can only have wives. Or, for that matter, that all women can only have men as partners.

    • haha Yeah that is true too but I’d rather not face that possibility just now :).

      • Roshni

        I know! I try not to as well! πŸ™‚

  • Jas

    Loved the post Rosh. Infact the last line was a stunner… I often say this to my husband, do not assume that it is going to be a girl πŸ™‚

    • Roshni

      Me too, Jas! At first it stunned him. I guess it harder for men to swallow about their sons! But, I will not close the door on that issue and be unfair to my sons in the process.

  • Truly, world is your oyster! Loved the way you are bringing up your kids in a multi-cultural environment!

    • Roshni

      There’s a song that played in my head while writing the post, ‘One night in Bangkok’….and I just plugged it in!! πŸ˜€

  • β€œhow will they talk to their wives?!!” …This one cracked me up!!. Being a bong born & raised in North India, I identified both Hindi & Bengali as language close to my heart. Now living in Delhi/NCR for almost a decade helped me learn bit of Punjabi as well. Same is our daughter picking up and trying to speak all four languages.
    It is great that your kids are growing up in an environment where nothing seems β€˜weird’ or β€˜not something that we people do’! This is surely going to broaden their outlook πŸ™‚

    • Roshni

      Thanks, NBOse! Yes, I too would love if my sons pick up more than 1-2 languages! It would stand them in good stead and it would be nice for them to be able to further interact with different people!

  • I love reading about the dynamics of your family! It’s beautiful and funny at the same time! Sounds a bit familiar =) Great read!

    • Roshni

      I’m sure this is very familiar to you!! πŸ™‚

  • chattywren

    Love your take on this issue, Roshni! Communicating is not about speaking languages! Yes, we can’t live with narrow outlooks, and ought to be open to accepting diversities, only there are so many, whew!

    • Roshni

      Thanks, Vibha! Yes, there are many! It’s just awesome that we can interact with a number of them. Who would have thought that my sons and I would get invited to a Polish birthday party and listen to them sing a Polish song, instead of ‘Happy Birthday!’?!

  • I call it the frog in the well syndrome. Not daring to venture beyond your roots, clinging to what you think is yours. I say to each one his own – but why pass judgement?

  • I would want my kids to learn our mother tongue. But if I ailed from different backgrounds like your family, I would definitely opt for one common language. I hate to admit, but I will show you dozens of your cousins..telugu people..me being a Andhrite. For me, I never ever hoped my kids will marry the person I show them nor intend to do that..all I hope is they marry a person of the opp. sex….btw, my son gave me his clarity 3 years back that he won’t marry an American and he will marry a Telugu girl. I asked why, he said, because she won’t know telugu and how will I converse with her…:P

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