• Erin

    I love this post. It shows how you pull out different parts of your personality to nurture both of your children and give them well rounded and happy childhood. To nurture both of their strengths and show them things they might never have known. I love how while you are teaching them…they’re also teaching you.

    You’re a wonderful mother – to both your boy and your girl.


    • Thank you, Erin. It’s so true that parenthood is a joint venture with children. We learn from each other and somehow find our way. 🙂

  • I loved the post.. its so truthful and talks about our fears and inhibitions.
    Its so nice u are a mother to both, A gal n a guy.. Mother and son bond is special no doubt but a daughter is the closest person ever to her mother.

    • Oh, that’s good to hear about daughters! My daughter is only two-years old so our relationship is still unfolding. Thank you for your kind comment.

  • Fantastic Post! Your joys, inhibitions, excitement and keenness to give your kids a great upbringing comes out so lucidly in your write-up. You have the best of both the worlds. Son or daughter, a child is anyway close to a mother. And for a mother there’s not a privilege bigger than this. Enjoy your motherhood!

    • Yes, I think the answer may be that if we think of our children as children, not as “boy” or “girl” then we can’t go wrong! I admit my initial reactions surprised me but I think we become “primed” to think of it in these terms, whether we realize it or not!

  • This sounds so much like the story of my life even to the tree climbing, no make up bit 🙂

    After having a girl, I have realized some things you can teach, certain other things could be in born. How else do you explain a ‘delicate darling’ kind of daughter to an ogre of a mother? Sometimes I wonder whether they switched babies at the hospital, though I have to believe she’s my daughter since people say she looks so much like me 🙂

    • Having a daughter made me see parts of me in her… and parts of her in me, sometimes in unexpected ways. I’m learning to recognize and love parts of myself that I didn’t notice or emphasize to myself. Some things are superficial, femininity is deep…and diverse! We all carry womanhood in our own way. 🙂

  • Roshni

    ha! I too was/am a tomboy and was actually relieved to have two sons! I guess I was as scared as you that I wouldn’t know how to mother a girl! But, who exactly defined that a woman had to love pink and purple, paint her nails and sew all day?! I’m glad that you are bringing up both of your kids to take a broader perspective of the gender issue!!

    • Thanks, Roshini, for sharing your experience! I think so much has to do with self-perception as well – something that’s always evolving. Enjoy your boys! 🙂