• I am glad you bring it up. Mother should only be driven by her instinct. Anything else is just a passing moment, that needs no more attention than a blank stare.

    • You are so right, Amrita. Unfortunately, as first-time mothers, we are on unfamiliar territory and it is easy to get swayed by other people’s opinions without questioning them.

  • Fab

    Reading your post was a feeling of deja vu!! I’ve heard the ‘don’t show babies their reflection’ thing too! In some places, new mothers aren’t given water to drink!! I remember being severely chided for cutting my own nails, apparently I had to wait till the baby was 40 days old (what?!). It was fun reading your experience too!

    • Wow! Not given water to drink? Thank God, I didn’t have to contend with that one. Nor was I banned from cutting my own nails. But there are so many versions of these superstitions and when it comes to babies, everyone’s got their favourite versions.

  • Nidhi

    Super post!! So true and tick, tick, tick to all superstitions and then some..! I sometimes wonder if we started believing every superstition we heard, would we ever be able to get out of bed at all, let alone get along with the act of being responsible parents 😉

    • Thanks, Nidhi. And I agree completely. If we believed every superstition, we’d never manage to do anything. But each mother comes to that realisation in her own time.

  • Divya

    I was nodding my head all the while reading this!! I have heard it all and like you said, even after denial, I have followed few of them, just in case 😀

    Great post!!

    • I was feeling so guilty about admitting to the Just in case part. It’s heartening to know that others have faced similar doubts and worries, and even more heartening to know that we survived them. Thanks, Divya.

  • What a lovely post. As a thirty year old mother I have heard it all and am now holding back the “tips” that have been passed on over the years by ignorami to my expectant daughter……… Whatever the superstitions children grow the way they are meant to and things happen despite or because of the black spot!

    • Thanks, BellyBytes. The good thing is that when it is our turn to give advice, at least we can give a decent burial to all these superstitions.

  • Briiliant! God save our children from all superstitions!

    • A hundred percent true, Vinod. And the only people who can save little children from such superstitions are their parents. I learned my lesson the hard way.

  • Oof!! I just hated the black teeka!! My MIL used to put a huge one for my older one which thoroughly messed up his pics! I didn’t say anything more out of respect for her than believing in the superstition. By the time my younger one was born, I was emboldened to tell her to make it small!! Loved your article!!

    • Thanks, Roshni. I completely understand your sentiments. The whole logic behind the teeka is a flawed one. I was told that people who were envious of me would get so mesmerised at the sight of the large teeka that they would forget to look at the slightly larger child bearing the teeka on his/her forehead. Can you believe that?

  • Can relate to this post so much!! Have heard these and so many more… The best part is that whosoever you meet has some new Don’ts to share!

    • Oh yes, Shilpa, there is a seemingly endless trove of “Don’ts” and it exists across cultures and races.

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