Ten Point Guide To Better Parenting

I know… I know… when you read the heading I am sure that this question would have come to your mind – “How can Parenting be put under just 10 points?”

Yes, it cannot be summarised in just 10 points, nor I am going to try doing that.

I am attempting to put down ten points of Parenting, which I adhere to as a parent. It’s easier said than done. Out of the many things, to decide on just 10 points, is quite difficult.

1. When kids suggest something new / different / innovative / something to oppose a tradition or custom, do not snub them outright, with a plain NO. Listen to their story, their version and if need be either accept their idea or put across your take on that.

2. Always stand up for your kid, no matter what, in front of others. This will help your child to trust you and come to you for any problems they face. If there is something to be corrected in the kid’s behaviour, it can be told later on a one to one basis.

3. It always works when good things done by children are appreciated and small bad things are best ignored. And appreciation with a smile, hug and reassuring words of love are great motivators.

4. Parents expressing love to each other in front of kids is certainly not a bad thing. Alternatively, it’ll reassure the child that such love is possible and the word “love” is certainly not dirty, as they learn from the peers. And hugs from parents always teach the children on the good touch-hug.

5. Always try not to talk about issues of in-laws relationships when children are around. It might spoil a healthy and happy grand parent-grand daughter bonding.

6. Always teach your child to be sensitive to elders and their needs. And let them see how well you care for your parents, in their old age.  They’ll automatically try to help the elders in the family.

7. Never scream / hit or go hysteric when children don’t listen to you. Silence is even more powerful than all these. Try it once and then you can make your child do wonders.

8. Teach them all the dirty language known to you, but make sure they don’t use them at all. It’s just to make them aware of it all, so that they know when it’s being used against them.

9. Always insist on saving – money / water / electricity. Show them the less privileged around us and insist on not wasting food. This is one of the precious lessons that we can teach our child.

10. Finally, children are great imitators. So, make sure that you behave exactly the same way that you want your child to behave.

Please do share your parenting point, which we can add up to this list.

Uma Srinivasan is a mother of two teenagers.  While she loves to blog, her daughters help her don hats like Chef / Baker / Parenting Consultant and many more. She manages three blogs, Blog on parenting & every-day conversations, My attempt to fall in love with this city called Chennai and Attempt at sharing my recipes with the world.

  • Swaram

    Good one Ums 🙂

    • Thanks Swaru 🙂

  • vasrao

    Loved this post -I will try to put in practice.

    • Thanks…I hope it is useful !!

  • Falak Randerian

    Great Post Uma…. Every point is bang on

    • Thanks Falak 🙂

  • Roshni

    Quite right on everything, Uma! I laud you for pointing out #4 and #8, which most parents will hesitate to do!

    • Thanks Roshini 🙂
      Yes, it was difficult to follow to put them into practice initially, then it became a way of life. It helps my girls to understand the tamil local slang when we shifted from Hyd one fine day.

  • Wonderful pointers, Uma!! Just 2 days ago, had to deal with point no. 8 and had the explain the ‘relevance’ of foul language and that it is offensive /rude and should be repeated out of respect for others. 😐

    • Shilpa, am glad parents like you and me talk to our children about this. Its necessary to have conversations covering all sorts of topics and escaping from them is never going to help the child.
      Hugs mommy !!

  • Great summary of parenting!! This is a great post.

    • Thank you so much dear 🙂

  • I like the last one best of all. I always swear by its use in the upbringing of my children. 🙂

  • Bookmarking your link 🙂 Will definitely need to use these tips. I am glad I know you 😀 I can run to you for help! 😉

  • Amrita Thavrani

    Loved the way you summarized you parenting skills. I agree to them.

  • Good pointers, Uma!

  • thats very true uma… i feel open communication and sharing is the key to a healthy bond between parents and children