Playground Moms

Parenting is the most criticized job that you could ever assume. Each one has different set of viewpoints. Every decision they make for their kid(s) will be based on this set of beliefs. Predictably experts have given distinctive names to these different styles of parenting. Do you subscribe to attachment parenting? Are you a tiger mom? Is being helicopter mom good for your kid’s self esteem? There is no end to these jargons.

Playground Moms

I am neither explaining those terms here nor criticizing any style of parenting. Instead, I present my list and analysis of types of mom based on my observation in playground.

1. Techie mom
Let me start with my type. This mom is always found with a laptop in the playground. She is busy compiling documents in her laptop, occasionally waving to her kid. She is accomplishing that balancing act of accompanying her kid and also completing her work. If she is not with her laptop, she is found tapping away furiously on her smart phone, usually researching ways to tackle the latest issue with her kid or searching a easy-to-make recipe for kiddo’s lunch box.

2. Social mom
This mom waits to hit the playground with her kid(s). She is usually found chatting with fellow moms, making arrangements for the next potluck party, planning the next kids day out to the park or arranging the next play date. She is found exchanging recipes or making new friends. She is fidgety if she finds herself alone in the playground. It is her kid who has to pull her out of the playground.

3. Helicopter mom
This mom’s single-point agenda is to shield her kid(s) from the hazards of this big bad world. She chases away any kid who ventures near her kid. Her hand is always behind her kid’s back ready to protect him from any injury. She doesn’t have time to pay attention to anything or anyone else in the playground. She enjoys being the protector of her kid.

4. Tiger mom
This mom wants the kid to perform well in the playground. She believes it is a shame to lose a game or a fight. She demands excellence in games, and follows strict schedules. She is a tough coach. She basically believes that playground time is an opportunity for achievement as opposed to just fun time.

5. Pied piper mom
She is the mom that every kid loves. She is the star of playground – laughing, cheering and hooting. She knows every playground trick. She doesn’t mind getting on that slide with her kid, getting into the sand to get messy or jumping into the pool to give her kid company. She becomes one among the kids and kids just love to spend time with her.

6. Perfect mom
She is the mom whose kids are well dressed, well behaved, always clean, never gets into any fight, and surpasses in studies. They always go to bed on time; wake up early and almost always eats well. Oh yeah, they only eat organic food.

Let me know if you have met any other type of mom. What type of mom are you?

Divya Rao is a mother to a 3.5 yr old bundle of joy. She has one eye set on growing her career and the other watching and enjoying her little one grow up.

  • Fabulous post, Divya. I love how you’ve categorized the toughest , most challenging and ironically, the most enjoyable job in the world! I am a mix of 2 and 5.

    Perfect I am definitely not, though I do try to achieve the “well dressed, well behaved and go to bed on time and eats well”. No fetish over organic though 😀 We love our indulgences.

    Really enjoyed this read. Have a great day!

    • You know its a tough job to categorize without being critical .. More or less, everyone I have met in playground belong to one or two of these categories .. Thanks for your comments Vidya.

  • Man there are so many types?? exhausting…

    I really hope I turn out to just be a lovable mom and not worry about the categories

    • In the end that’s what matters, but who is to decide you are Good or Bad? ‘Good’ to you might be ‘Bad’ to others … That’s why parenting is such a tough job !!

  • Lovely categorization! I guess, I am a mix of 1 and 6 and partly 2! 😀

    • High-Five fellow techie mom !!

  • Fab

    OMG, does Mom no. 6 actually exist?? Wow, I’d love to be her!! As it is, I’m probably between 1 and 2 🙂

    • I guess all of us, blogger moms, are techie moms already!
      Fab, Yes .. I have met mom 6. They make you seriously guilty!

  • As of now I am a mix of Helicopter Mom (as my son is still on his knees, trying to stand unsupported – do not want to be that for long for sure , he has to learn to protect himself ) and Researcher Mom ( techie Mom at home, taking Google’s help to tackle latest issues with the kid & social mom in playground listening intensely to how other moms have tackled the issues ).

    • Researcher mom – That’s a nice and apt term …

  • Rachna Parmar

    I don’t which category I fall under probably 2 :).

    • If you don’t know which of these categories you belong to, then I might not have covered it 🙂

  • Harshith

    Nice write up, you have made some keen observations. And I wanned to ask how do you categorize ur mom ;).

    • Thanks Harshith!!
      My mom was a pied piper mom, only to us. She was fun to be with and she was the coolest mom … She still is 🙂
      When it came to studies, she was a tiger mom .. Wanted nothing less than first place in exams .. and would go to any length to help us in studies …

      • Harshith

        Yeah she is cool.. i like her too

  • Wow! that was some intense research! I think I’d be a mix aof 1 and 2, sometimes even 6. And what about Moms who join the match something like a Player mom? (Can’t keep my hands off the kids badminton rackets :-))

    • Mom who joins kids in a match – Pied Piper mom.
      Wow Meena .. You are an all rounder mom 🙂

  • i think i am mix of 2,4 and 5.. should learn to put myself in 6.. that too only if my kid co-operates.. 🙂

    • No 6 covers all.. And you are close…!!

  • Okay, I am 1 and 3 (because my son is just 15 months right now). Parenting has become a subject really, and we all want to do our best 🙂

  • You are right..6 is the target!! We continuously try to achieve that!!

  • rachana sharma

    Well initiated and portrayed Divya but you forgot to mention one more aspect which manifest first through your writing; observational or thinker mom, who love to observe all other types and indulge in psycho-analysis, categorization and so on to draw an abstract picture…. 🙂

    • Haha Rachana, that’s me 🙂 Observing others and adopting and adjusting my theories … 🙂 Thanks for your comment ..

  • Just read it…..very close observation… though I don’t go to play ground that often but have had my share some of these things… 🙂

    • Appreciate you leaving comments! Thanks Prasad.

  • Shilpasom

    Divya, Sunil and I enjoyed reading this article. This one is hilarious and quite a good observation. May be you want to add one more ‘ Soccer Mom’ ( common in US), who has timed out every event and sets timer to ride kids to different sport events at different playgrounds. Doesn’t matter if the kids want to play for a little longer. Time to go means time to go, the next sport event is just waiting for you:).

    • Haha Shilpa .. This one sounds like a tiger mom … But interesting terminology you have got! Thanks for leaving a comment 🙂

  • I am amix of all then.

    • We try to be a bit of everything, I agree. Thanks for leaving a comment Sumana.

  • Very astute categorization.. I am still laughing and wondering which category I fall into. probably 1 and 6.

    • Hey thanks Priya!! You are 6!! I am impressed …