Morning Woes

Right now, am going through the classic case of morning woes with my daughter – 5 days of the week.


You see, she has ‘graduated’ from the Montessori section in her school (yes, there was a proper graduation day ceremony, complete with the cape and the certificate and all) to the Primary – all of a big class I student now, she is, and even as the transition has brought a big smile to her face in terms of being able to tell people that she now goes to Class I (a big achievement – this marks her beginning in the ‘grown up’ world), the actual transition is proving quite something!

I have always been a full-on night-bird and waking up in the early hours has never been my strength, and the worst and scariest thing right now is – to see my daughter following in the same footprints! Oops!

So even as I groggily wake up to the morning alarm, I realise the biggest and most difficult task is still to be accomplished – to wake up my daughter and manage to keep her awake enough to get ready for school and bundle her off in the school bus. It’s always a mad-rush and given the amount of days she has been missing her school bus or missing going to school altogether, I must admit I’m looking quite the ‘incompetent’ mum in school!

I remember how difficult it used to be for me to wake up at 5:30 in the morning and sit in the bus an hour later, and especially in the Delhi winters, when our school would allow us a half-hour delay and the bus would reach at 7 instead of 6:30.

It would be pure torture to take my tiny 4-year-old self to the school bus with my mother, both of us wrapped in the crazy Delhi winter fog, my fingers and face numb with the cold and hoping the bus wouldn’t come and I could go back to my blanket – that it never happened is a different story.

My hubby and I have always been discussing this ‘go to school early in the morning’ theory – is it really essential for kids to wake up early and head over to school, even while their little dreams are still lingering in those little eyes and are not quite out? My daughter was doing a 4-hour school shift till last school session, and suddenly, since this session, it’s jumped up to a straight 08-hours. This is proving especially difficult, what with the doubling of the hours and a change in wake-up time. I’m trying to cope with it, but it’s not happening yet!

So it is that even if I manage to get her in a sitting position, she will fall asleep sitting in the middle of the bed, or if I manage to take her to the wash basin for a brush, she will doze off with the brush in her mouth, her little head plopped on the wash basin and the little eyes shut in sleep.

I hate doing this to her each morning, but I guess, in order to be a good mom and in order to make her a ‘good’ student and ‘good’ girl, I will have to figure out a way.

So all the best to the both of us, and even to you, if you’re facing the same too!

Debolina Raja Gupta loves being a mommy and best friend to her 5-year old princess. A working mom, voracious reader, social activist, photographer, poet, travel freak, beauty writer and an everything-of-sorts. Best fun is story time and our fashionista time together. My blogs: The Book WormA Few Thoughts Here And ThereMy Little One And MeBeauty Makeup And More.

  • Ha ha no getting away from this now for a long, long time since your daughter has just started Class 1. My time is gonna come soon. When I would go for morning walks and find parents queuing up with their kids for bus, I would be reminded of my own fast-approaching time. There are kids in my society who go early morning and are back by 12-1 pm, while there are some who go by 8-8.30 and come by 3-4 pm. For the latter, what time is left to do their own thing? Moreover, the commute time in big cities add up to the already long hours at school. I was lucky in that way to have grown up in a tiny township. But of course, there are more opportunities and avenues of learning in big cities. Phew! I can go on and on!

    • Reema…all the best to you for the approaching time!

      While I was growing up in Delhi, I would leave by 6 in summers and 6:30 in winters and be back latest 12-1pm. It gave me ample time to do my things.

      My daughter, however, leaves at 8:20 now and returns around 4:30. Add to that 2 days of dance class (her choice), 1 day of mental maths (her choice) – she also had swimming 5 days a week which is now stopped due to monsoon. Btw, all this is with her own choice and I constantly try to cut down on her evening activity classes to make for some time.

      By the time she is home, its already time to do nothing but force her to eat dinner and sleep. I really feel the poor thing is losing out on all the fun time that she should rightfully be having at this age, without worrying about not playing and instead make it to bed…tough times for our little ones 🙁

  • Hi Debolina,

    Your post reminded me that my time is also fast approaching. You see currently my son A is in Montessori II and soon will be going to Class I. Although he does wake up early thanks to me being a morning person even after being in journalism for almost 12 years now, the power struggle starts with his morning routine wherein most of the time is wasted. And yes like you I am also in Delhi and wondering how will I send A in those chilling winter, I think of my childhood and give and take strength from that fact — if momma can you can! All the best to both of you and I am sure you are competent mom, it’s just a matter of time before both of you settle in a routine.

    • Swati Nitin Gupta…Lol, the first thing I need to thank you for is thinking that I am a competent mom 😉 I may be in some spheres, but when it comes to trying and being a morning example, I’m a failure of the most epic proportions 😉

      I did spend my entire childhood and growing up years in Delhi but have now been calling Mumbai home for the past 7 years. And here, the school timings are crazy, though they are not that early as we had in Delhi, my 5-year-old daughter leaves at 8:20 in the morning and returns around 4:30, though the school bus takes about 20 minutes for commute. So you see, poor thing loses out on all the time she should be spending playing and not worrying about getting bundled up for bed to wake up in next time.

      Yes, its a constant struggle, and we both are really trying, even as hubby constantly keeps getting amused 😉

      All the best to you too!