I was always close to my dad and now that he’s not there with us I feel the void. When I was pregnant I always wanted a baby girl… And I always knew that she would turn out to be closer to the husband. Then my wish was granted and I was blessed with Zoe. Now that she 2 years + I don’t have to think twice when I say, she has turned out to be a COMPLETE DADDY’s GIRL.
When the husband is home, she doesn’t even acknowledge my presence. Feeding, bathing, changing clothes, story time everything has to have one common ingredient Daddy.
I will have to give credit to the husband; he’s a complete hands-on dad. He knows more about Zoe’s medicines, vaccination, diet, shopping, play-dates than I do. (That doesn’t mean I’m clueless about them… Huhh). Seeing both of them together having such a blast, I get all moist eyed and emotional. I also feel a tad jealous… Why does Zoe become such a Dad’s Darling when he’s around. When it’s just me and Zoe things are pretty nice, but we unfortunately do not share the same connect as the husband and Zoe does.
Zoe is always happy when she’s around us (touch-wood) but if you compare her reaction when she sees daddy after a long to when mommy gets back home… The latter is nothing and stands nowhere. When I come into a room, I get a smile and Zoe’s eyes start twinkling. When the husband does, she starts jumping and shrieking with joy, insisting him to pick her up right away and blows loads of kisses on daddy dearest’s face followed by ‘I Love You Fizzy’. Now you know what I was talking about.
So how does a mom of a daddy’s girl feel? I feel happy to see both of them together. I feel nervous that this mutual love for each other will grow further and Zoe will eventually treat mom as a babysitter while daddy is away. I feel jealous at times, seeing them connect so well, they at times end up completely ignoring my presence. More than anything else, I feel blessed when I see them together, I see myself and my dad in Zoe and the husband.
Whenever I feel a little insecure I think about the positive aspect of this relationship. The husband has turned out to be a great dad, and he helps me a lot as far as taking care of Zoe is concerned. When the husband is with Zoe, I get my much-needed me-time. I can do anything attend to chores, read, exercise, work, or listen to some music… Whatever I want.
There are times (though there are very few moments) when she prefers mommy over daddy. When she gets hurt, when she wants someone to make a fool out of oneself and read a story, when she is very sleepy at night… So I love these moments and when they come, I feel she also needs her Ammi as much. So, with Zoe and with most children it’s about moments/phases, some belong to dads and some to moms. So what if my moments are few and far between.
A story-teller, a Communication Trainer, a Parenting Blogger, a wife to her best friend and mum to the most adorable 2-year-old – Zoe. Falak Randerian, plays many roles, her favorite Being Zoe’s Mom. She runs story telling & communication workshop for kids My Little Chatterbox. You can read her personal blog Being Zoe’s Mom and her parenting website which she runs along with her elder sister www.momsters.in .