Is Your Child An Attention Seeker?
Does your child bring all his toys to play with you the moment you switch on TV? Does he increase his volume to get your attention? In case of no response from you, does he use violent means? Yes, your child is an attention seeker. All kids are. And you need a change of perception to understand him well.
All your kiddo needs is your undivided attention when you are with him. He wants you to smile with him, laugh with him, play with him, color with him and in fact he will be very happy to even read and learn with you. He wants you to answer all his little queries that he encounters while understanding the world around him. Since his birth the only constant factor for him has been his parents and he has developed a trust in you. You are a constant assurance of support to him. He firmly believes that when in trouble you will be there to help him out. ‘ Trouble’ here could refer to a very simple thing like being unable to reach out for a color pencil lying on the table or unable to figure out why the stuffed elephant does not eat ice-cream. And with each response of yours his trust goes down deep in his heart. And this trust later develops into self-confidence.
Due to some unavoidable situation, I could not attend office a few days back. Since there was some urgent task to be delivered so I opted to work from home. I was initially very worried if my two year old son will ask me to play his rhymes on the laptop and not allow me to work at all. But as the day passed, I found my initial worries meaningless. He sat with me with his small little world and was busy with it. Every now and then, he would ask me something from his book, he would smile at me and get back to his stuff. Deep in his heart he was happy that his mom is spending her day with him and hence he can happily outsource his worries to me.
It is on this day, I realized his need for my attention is very much similar to our need of assurance. Don’t we all wish for a support when venturing into a new business? Don’t we all look out for advice when buying a new house or car? Don’t we want someone to help us decide the right person to get married to? And in most of the cases we look up to our parents for support. So, why not our children? Their queries and worries could be very small compared to ours but so are their worlds too. And their parents remain the most important part of their worlds which we should be very happy about.
As I scribble down this article, my little angel comes to me with all the excitement to inform me that just now he has seen a banana tree and its leaves are green in color. He keeps me informed of all his latest discoveries and finds pride in the fact that he has improved his mother’s awareness. Life is so colorful with you my pumpkin!!
I would like to describe myself as a dreamer in the IT world. I am full of positive energy. I hold degree in electronics engineering and have been working in core electronics (Semiconductor Domain) since last 8 years. I have been blessed with a family who encourages me in whatever I wish to do. I have a two year old son who is my lifeline. I am an avid traveler and also love cooking. I take this opportunity to scribble down lovely experiences with my son.