Back To School

My son’s school has finally reopened after several days of dusshera holidays. He’s in nursery. It was a period of merriment for him and we as parents did whatever possible to keep him happy and occupied. That was the tough part. But the days just flew by and now it’s time to go back to school once again. Thankfully, he was not grumpy and moody on his first day of school and that made things easier for me.

It’s time to start the process all over again of teaching him to write, read him stories, help him colour and the list goes on. The activities are numerous and endless. The pressure is big time high on kids these days. Don’t you all agree? Being a hyperactive kid, I initially found it difficult to make him write for fifteen minutes at a stretch. His thoughts would wander and he would just not focus.  Pressuring him to write only made it worse.  He would often burst into tears.
My patience too would run out. I gradually learnt to be gentle and patient with him and things started working out in our favour. I never pressurized him but at the same time I coaxed, encouraged and praised him whenever he did write. He gradually started writing more and now he sits continuous for half an hour. Encouraging him worked well.

I allotted a special time for him to do his homework and discouraged him from other activities at that particular time. Making learning and other activities more fun helped me in bringing him back on track. There is always joy in learning and doing fun things together and I think that worked well with him.
Each child is unique and different and the same method cannot always be used to teach a child. Some kids may require a little more patience and empathy. When we were in school, I recollect writing alphabets and numbers only, in nursery. But now there are numerous activities like picture reading, matching the numbers, matching alphabets to pictures and public speaking.
The burden is not only high on kids but also on Parents who have got the herculean responsibility of teaching the child. The greatest challenge I’ve found is to get the attention of the child, and it’s more difficult if he or she is hyperactive. Another challenge we all parents face is we do not want the child to be left behind in the rat race however at the same time we don’t want to pressurize them too much as well.
My son received his report card a couple of days back. By god’s grace he has performed fairly well. He received a mix of A and A + grades in most of the subjects. He also stood first in the spell bee contest, which was a bonus. I’m aware of the fact that I don’t need to get all worked up regarding the grades, at this stage but it’s undeniably a good feeling to see the good grades on his report card.  Good results not only build up the child’s confidence but it’s a great gift to the Parent who makes an effort to teach the child. At the end of day we both were happy that our joint efforts paid off.
 I’m Diana Pinto mother of a three-year-old son. I’m a housewife and a blogger. My interests include listening to music, dancing and now of course writing. I’ve developed an interest in writing recently and hope to inspire people and bring a change through it. I blog at Diana’s musings.

  • Sid Balachandran

    Hi Diana. Congratulations to both your son and you for coming through with flying colours 🙂 The expectations on kids have always been high, particularly within the Indian society. And this lays more pressure on the parents as well. The only thing we can do is find the way that works best for each child, and give them the tools which will help them succeed in whatever they do. Good post

    • Diana Natasha Pinto

      Hi Sid !! Thanks for the good wishes and yes finally our joint efforts paid off. It’s rewarding though. Exactly the pressure is big time high on kids and normally as parents we would do what’s best for our kids. It does give a sense of purpose and meaning to our lives.

  • Oh my! I think I am in love again, with your handsome son. The most good-looking man in a uniform I have ever seen. (And I have seen many, believe me!:)

    Your post is written from your heart, as well as your hands-on experience. The motherly wisdom shines through beautifully. And I cannot agree more with what you have to say! 🙂

    • Diana Natasha Pinto

      My naughty son would be on top of the world if he reads this 🙂 It feels good to receive encouraging comments especially coming from talented writers like you. I try my best to write from my heart and your awesome comments made my day 🙂

  • Diana Natasha Pinto

    Dealing with hyperactive kids is not easy and I’m relieved to know that I’m not alone in this. Infact today I saw a parent having a tough time dealing with the tantrums of a three year old boy. You’ve summed it up well Rekha. Glad you enjoyed the post.