Daddy’s Darling Daughter

Dad or Mum! Who loves you more? Choose… It’s the trickiest one. I remember I would always play safe and answer ‘both’. Some children shy away from the answer but a few do side with one parent. I love them for this if its true and not done for an extra chocolate or to avenge the most recent whacking.

Daddy's Darling Daughter

The question is no litmus test in disguise but is simply an indication of the child’s emotional attachment and dependency towards one of the parent. That’s absolutely healthy.

There is always one among the two who hears you better and you feel comfortable to approach him/her before the other one. In fact I would say I would have loved to say Dad for the above question. Of course Mum won’t mind because she knows I love her the most but when it comes to father-daughter bonding, there hasn’t been a stronger bond than this. Dollops of feelings put together which cannot be expressed neither can they be penned down. We all know mothers carry us proudly for nine months laughing at all the pain and sufferings. Thus they are the queens but my heart also goes to the man who stands by her throughout the journey. The one who is always expected to brave it all and keep his tears at bay. He pampers the lovely lady and does every extra bit for the mother and the child.

“Why does every girl want a husband like her Father or every boy wants to fall in the footsteps of his Father…. ?

Daughter says – The reason is simple because I want another very caring and supportive friend whom I can easily trust and give away my smiles and laughters.  Life away from you PAPA, can never be complete without having your impressions around me always.

Son Says – I have seen you face it all Dad and I know what courage and strength it takes to be you. You have corrected me for all my wrongs and now is the time to set things right all the way. I want to be the same man as you who resembles love, kindness, maturity, integrity and courage.”

My Dad had nicknamed me, 3D – Daddy’s darling daughter. This is a special name and I will cherish it for always. I have had a great friend and confidant in my Dad. From my trivial to the troublesome issues he has been the wall for me. The relationship we share has never had space for inhibitions and we have never been driven by formalities. Though an only daughter, I am absolutely not the pampered one. I do not remember being thrashed or slapped but yeah there are memories when he made me do the right over my wrong again and again. The important lessons of life were imprinted  and none could have taught me better than my father.

Dad never asked me to stand first in class infact he only wanted me to know my basics accurately. He always encouraged me to participate in co-curriculars preventing me from becoming a book-worm. He gifted me my first papyrus friends, the fairy tales and children’s Ramayana that helped me build my own set of dreams and beliefs. He would guide me on my scrap-books and check my formation of sentences. It was a happy childhood to be under his philosophical umbrella and Mamma’s bear hugs.

And then came the time to be away from home and leave for hostel, both shed tears but he stood tall and smiling. His eyes showed no fears but only confidence in me and his upbringings. He let not the faith diminish that one day I would make him proud. Forever, he has taught me to have my own decisions and it was easy to tell him about my choice.  Thank You so much Daddy for accepting the other special man in my life with open arms and ever smiling face.

“Children who have great bonds with their fathers lie less and are found less indulged in vicious habits.  Also they do not fall prey to bad companies”

There are many of my friends who do not have a great bonding with their fathers. I would only ask, have you  really done your part to bridge the distance. It’s important to keep in mind the upbringing and the place where your father has been brought up. This is so because these things may have made him orthodox and he does not prefer talking much to his children. Maybe this strong hearted person who has worked and sacrificed for you all his life does not know how to express or maybe he just does not believe in saying it. Some people really find it hard to say what they feel it in their hearts. Just Go and say – I love you Dad because there isn’t a need of a Father’s day to salute the first man of your life. You can do it everyday.

When everyone’s talking about mothers, I wanted to honour my father. It makes my mother proud too. Hope the next generation realises the beauty of relationships and maintains the sanctity to the core.

Engineer by Profession and an ABC by Passion, Manjulika Pramod would elaborate it as Artist, Blogger and a Crazy one for Books. Putting it other way round she loves to travel and write travelogues, she plays with colors to vent out her creative pangs. She is also an avid reader and out to spread the reading virus. She works with a telecom MNC and in little spare times, she reviews books and interviews authors. Manjulika has a story published in Chicken Soup for the Soul to her credit and you can catch her on her blog.

  • The eternal question…. but no real answer. I think it is not fair to tax the little ones with this question…. It is almost like pitching one parent vs another. Like u mention in the post you will give a guarded answer….same will happen and kids will get to see a divided parental front even if it is in jest tht the question is asked…

    • Oh yes! its almost like pitching the parents against each other.
      And the truth is children do have their single favorite… 🙂

  • manik

    awesome write up…..really touching n inspiring….

    • Thank you hubby dear.. Glad you read it… After all you were also approved by Dad .. Lets be thankful 🙂

  • Lovely and so true :)! As a child I have gone through this when my parents use to ask me the same question and like most of the kids I use to answer “both” and now being a parent I ask my kids the same question but always get the same reply though internally I know my lil one is more attached to his Dad but won’t admit openly thinking I will get hurt but I won’t mind if he shares this with me. Undoubtedly dads are the pillars of the family and they keep doing their bit without even making the others realise what all they go through in making the family happy.

    • I am glad you agree to it so much.. and also you know that your Little one has an inclination to Dad.. My mum also knew this because I would always go to my Dad in days of need and stress though Mom would come with a solution… Father’s are the most important part of our lives…

  • Lovely post 🙂
    I just await the day when my daughters write a post like this for their dad !!!

    • Thank You Ma’am.. I feel glad my post made you want this… and I am sure all the daughters wanna feel this for their Dads and they do it as well in some form or the other..

  • rama

    Well we all love our parents equally, each for different reasons, and there can never by how much or how much less, it is the same for us. We can’t ask which ‘eyes you like best’, for there is no answer to that.

  • I agree we all love our parents equally but there can be a little more comfort- inclination to one and the reason may be very simple, you feel more wanted and heard.. and among my friend circle, I at least know 5 friends who would fear talking to their fathers just because their Dads were more silent and reserved… So its just about comfort.. obviously love is universal and eternal…

  • just loved ur post.. this the same i feel about my dad, but could never express it.. i am going to share this to my hubby too,tell him that one day his daughter too is going to tell this to him.. 🙂

  • Wow.. dats so nice of you to share it further.. I made sure my hubby read it too.. ha ha
    This makes me say you too had a perfect daughter-father bond and that’s so special. At times we are not able to express the love of it… but I am sure your actions do..

  • That’s such a beautiful tribute to your Dad! Loved it! 🙂

  • Thank u so much… I love ur constant appreciation…
    I felt so much peace within once I had written it… n Dad was elated to read it..

  • A really lovely post. I always say it is my DAD. He is the one with whom I get angry the most because I expect so much from him 🙂

  • Thanks Jas… and same here I love to fight with him… I din’t mention the angry part but I take him for granted always… have tried all on him from pillow fights to shutting down his laptop between his important works…

  • Nidhi

    Fathers and daughters have a very special bond indeed – I can see that happening in my own home 😉

  • Himani Agarwal

    Nice post…. I also share that special bond with my Dad…and really no matter how much I argue with him he is and will always be my strength and support in everything.

    • You may fight with the world but you know there is someone who is going to protect u from all odds and that feeling itself is so beautiful n safe… thats what makes our dear Dads so special…

  • Beautiful writeup!!

  • Lovely!

  • Thank u!

  • Thank u

  • Beautifully written! Yes, I would also go for the first man in my life, my father. And, infact,I wrote about him in my earlier blog on TGTown. I love my Paa! 🙂

  • Thanks Gayatri.. best pal we are blessed with forever..

  • Richa

    Nice posts……………..Every father should have a daughter like u:)

  • Thanx Richa… everyone needs a friend like you… I am glad I have one like u.

  • GauravPrakashKanaujia

    Father daughter relation is indeed very special; Daughter is a gift of God for a family, especially for a father as her presence makes him happiest person in this world, her smile & talks revitalize him every day. Thanks & congratulations sis for your post for this lesser talked relation..

  • Very True Sir… This is a special bond.. Daughters and fathers talk less about it but vlaue it biggest…