So, I’m back after a hiatus… I missed this space, but I have been really busy. BUSY, yes that is what I would like to talk about today. We all are busy… and its difficult to take out time for one of the most important element in your life…. your family – your child.
Well, when I started working from home Zoe was not even 6 months old & then within a year, I decided to start something on my own. It’s been more than a year since I have been running My Little Chatterbox. Being the ambitious soul I’m, I did not want to take things lightly. I started my venture because I knew how serious I was about it and what my priorities were. The problem is I not only wanted to give my 100% to my business, I wanted the best for Zoe as well… yes, I’m ambitious about everything.
I knew I would be very busy, but I didn’t want Zoe to feel neglected at any point in time. There were a couple of things which I guess I did right, and these very things helped me remain sane. The most important thing is to prioritize. You know what exactly you want & what things hold importance in your life. I knew I couldn’t take up a 9-5 job and leave Z at home… I also did not want to leave my job & become a housewife (that wasn’t me), I didn’t want to tell Zoe when she grows up “I gave up everything to bring you up. You should be grateful.” So, what I chose was the best option available when I looked at the situation I was in.
Prioritizing also means, I’m extremely particular about a few things. Zoe’s screen time (TV/Laptop/Mobile) is limited & we show her stuff we are comfortable with. I do not compromise on what Z eats, and we plan a weekly menu for her to avoid last minute planning. Workwise as well, Zoe knows if Mamma is in a session she needs to be a good girl and sit till Mom is free. My bedroom becomes my den, so when on a call I go in my room and Zoe knows she cannot speak/shout for attention when mom is on a call.
It’s extremely crucial to raise an independent child, who doesn’t rely on you for anything and everything. Zoe has her books & artwork to keep her busy when mamma is working. I do make sure I stop work when she is having her meals, but I do not feed her. I let Zoe explore her environment independently but I always try to keep an eye on her.
Zoe and me live on a schedule, I make sure I spend ample time exclusively with Z. I read to her, play with her, paint, talk do it all. Those moments are for us and I do not touch my phone or laptop when I’m with her.
Supportive Partner is a must, Fizz has been a hands-on dad since day 1. I did go through severe Post-Partum depression but Fizz was there for Zoe and me since day one… physically & emotionally. Today, even if I have to take a work related outstation trip, I can blindly leave Zoe with Fizz and I know I will come back to a happier child.
The most important bit is I make sure I’m there with Z when she needs me. These points come handy for me… what about you?
A story-teller, a Communication Trainer, a Parenting Blogger, a wife to her best friend and mum to the most adorable 2-year-old – Zoe. Falak Randerian, plays many roles, her favorite Being Zoe’s Mom. She runs story telling & communication workshop for kids My Little Chatterbox. You can read her personal blog Being Zoe’s Mom and her parenting website which she runs along with her elder sister www.momsters.in .