Yes, I am a mother who needs some ‘Me’ time, some fun time and some relaxing time. Sounds selfish? It’s something I am not guilty for. Why should I, if I give my 100% to my kid when I am with him. I want to brighten up each moment I spend with my kid. This won’t happen if I am not happy. I need my ‘Me’ time to make myself HAPPY and in return, to make my kids happy. First thing first, no one can change this for us better than our-self.
4 things to do right away:
- Stop saying “I don’t have time”
- Find what made you happy when you are not a MOM
- Find suitable time of the day
- Go for it!
Do Not Wait
If you wait to give yourself time until all your work is done, you’ll never get to play. Start doing what really makes you happy: Go for a walk, a movie or out with friends, a dance class, spa therapy, book club, kitty party or anything which brings smile on your face. In this race of perfect parenting, we lose ourselves little by little, day by day.
What ‘Me’ Really Means
Going out alone or doing something is not the only way to spend some ‘Me’ time. Doing nothing and spending time with ourselves is the best way to rejuvenate amidst the usual crying and tantrums. It needs not to wait until the kids are asleep. Just make sure you do something for yourself while doing everything for kids.
- While you are looking out for healthy snacks for your kids, do the same for yourself.
- While your kids are playing in the park, treat yourself with your favourite music or workout.
- While your kids are busy playing with their toys, take a hot shower.
- A little dose of self-care would do wonders.
We deserve ‘Me’ Time
At first place, we as mothers need to stop being guilty. Ladies, it’s not a matter of shame. It’s a gift you that you deserve. You do so much for your family that you very well deserve this free time. It is important for our well-being and helps us to be a better mum.
Sometimes, it’s not bad to eat your favourite ice-cream or chocolate all by yourself without sharing it with your kids. You are getting it what I am trying to say, right?
Do Not Expect Perfection
You might know some mothers who seem to juggle between their duties very well- Job, kitchen, health, cleaning and rest. Mind me, it cannot be possible without a little ‘Me’ time. It’s only some ‘Me’ time which keeps them sane and fresh. As mothers especially, and parents in general, we battle with other parents trying to be the best. But the truth is that, no single parent can be the best breadwinner, chef, craftsperson, artist, nurturer and everything else at the same time. Relax! You are a best parent to your kids.
Ask For Help
Count on your family and ask for it. Share the workload with others and this will bring you harmony. Talk to them- husband or grandparents. Sharing small tasks can allow you to breathe- from sterilizing bottles, packing up the toys to taking kids to a park. Remember- A happy Mommy makes a happy home.
I love to write and craft. Being a full time working mother, I either have to get up early or stay up till late to follow my passions but even this is better than “no-me-time”.
Most of the days, I start my mornings silently doing Yoga. Over the weekends when my son goes to sleep, I rush to couch with TV remote in my hand- not watching literally but love the feel of it. Does this make me a bad mother? I don’t think so.! Do you find it hard to find your own “me time”? Let’s help each other.
Upasna is a working mother who strive to spend as much time as she could with her toddler. A music lover who loves to share her experiences and beliefs which boosted her to start a blog. She is living her dream to settle down in the same city in which she was born and loves to greet people with handmade Greeting Cards. Upasna blogs at Life Through my Bioscope.