Nudity

Do you get the aesthetics in nudity? I can talk about myself. I go “hawwww” when I see a nude person or some kind of nudity in any kind of media. And as far as I know, I am not the only one. Why are we [at least so many of us] uncomfortable with nudity?

Nudity And Kids - Teaching Child Not To Be Ashamed Of His Body

Let me get to this little differently.

As a parent of a young child, are you comfortable changing your clothes in front of him/her? Or do you discourage nudity in your tiny tots – telling them to dress up quickly, not to hang around without clothes or not to go in front of people in nude? Or do you say or do any such thing which implies that ‘nakedness is rude, naughty or shameful? Trust me, you are not alone. I have never taken my son with me to the bathroom for my own loo-break or to take a bath myself; never, not a single time. I am extremely conscious about it. I also never let him run around naked. I am sure; you would know how little kids want to run naked! So far, I thought I needed to teach him that it was not okay to be naked around other people.

Sakshi touched upon this subject of nakedness and shame sometime back. Until now, I thought about nudity similarly. But parenthood is not just about raising children but questioning your own beliefs too. Naturally, this also made me think if I was unconsciously teaching him, to be ashamed of his own body? Why do I want to pass on my own hang-ups about nudity to him? On one hand, I want him to grow up to be a free individual with minimum prejudices and hang-ups, and on another hand, I am putting the weight of my own prejudices on him.

At the moment, I am not too sure how to handle this. I have been raised in a certain way, and I cannot unlearn a lot of things which are deeply ingrained in me, but can I help my child to be free of my own inhibitions?

In fact, even in the many articles I read about potty training; they say, it helps a lot if the child sees his parents ‘go’ in the bathroom. I chose to ignore that point completely because it made me uncomfortable.

But now, I am compelled to try and change my viewpoint. Don’t get me wrong. I am not trying to raise a nudist, but I want my child not to be ashamed of his own body or be uncomfortable around people who choose to be that way. Who are we to judge?

What are your thoughts?

Reema Sahay is a Stay-At-Home-Mom, Freelance Writer, Voracious Reader, Passionate Blogger, Social Media Enthusiast, Internet Junkie and Ex-Marketing Communication Professional. She spends her days running after her very curious toddler, ‘the star’, and catching up on books when he naps. She writes about charms and challenges of life at Pen Paper and shares her passion for books at Recommend Books. She sometimes feels that her 5.5 years stint in Marketing Communication was in another life

  • kalpana solsi

    Children should not be ashamed of their own bodies. Children love to run about naked when they are small but as they start to enter the threshold of teens they automatically change without anyone telling them.

    • Reema Sahay

      Yes. Thankfully, I realized this sooner than later. Many people use shame to make them cover up but it is damaging to their self-image. By shaming or embarrassing them, we are certainly not going to achieve any long-term goal.
      Thank you for reading :-)

  • http://desitraveler.com/ Prasad Np aka desi Traveler

    I am sure on this topic moms and dads will have very different views …lets hear them here……( see how carefully I avoided giving my views? does it tell something?)

    • Reema Sahay

      Ha ha I love different views. I hate it when everyone agrees. On this platform, where we obviously have parents who are thinking about their choices, I would love to hear out each one of them, and then find my own path. Right now I am just in a confused state. But the most important thought is not to shame the kids into covering up. What say?

  • V ki Amma

    A few months after V was born, my mom told me one day – “As he grows up, don’t change your clothes before him.” I didn’t pay much attention to her. I am not ashamed of nudity and even till now, I walk out of the shower wearing a kurta (because we don’t have an attached bath). I also change before my son. He is two now. And I ask him to turn around, just as I ask his Dad too. Yes, I do that. I have never bathed before him, but yes, I have used the toilet just to demonstrate its use. I also refrain using words like “chee-chee” and neither do I play the seemingly harmless games of tickling and poking his private parts. In fact I stop anyone who does that. Taking off from Sakshi’s post, shame is not what I want to teach. Instead I want to teach privacy, one that he is in control of. :)

    • Reema Sahay

      Yes. Same here. The angle I feel uncomfortable with is shaming the child to make him dress up. I also want him to grow up to be a person who is not uncomfortable with nudity or someone who accepts other people’s choices of dressing up or undressing or partial dressing [or whatever], and not perceive it as shameful. I guess, you understood where I am coming from.

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