8 Reasons To Judge Other Mommies [And Daddies]

For this post and this post only, I forfeit all my claims of being non-judgmental of other people. I remember when I was a kid, my mom used to read a Hindi women’s magazine called Sarita. It had a section called ‘Mujhe Shikayat Hai’ or ‘I have complaints against’. This section used to be full of complaints against all and sundry on all kinds of issues. This post intends to accomplish a similar objective.

8 Reasons To Judge Other Mommies [And Daddies]

These are my complaints against some mommies [and daddies too]. I judge those mommies [and daddies] who

  1. Routinely return home well past midnight, after trips to the mall or some get together. And this happens frequently. No wonder the kid is not in the habit of waking up early, and then you complain that your child does not sleep early at night. It is called inculcating a habit and it takes efforts to make one, dear lady!
  2. Let their young kids run helter skelter inside society premises when they are aware that vehicles would be coming from all sides during that precise hour as the birds fly back home post-sunset. So, it is the onus of the person driving who needs to keep the kids safe. There are kids who would also happily play with the car [and the driver]. The moment you would put your foot on the accelerator, the kid would threaten to jump in front of your car. Sometimes mommy would see this little game and come glaring towards the driver. My suggestion is don’t gossip lady, look after your child.
  3. Introduce their kids to chocolates as the go-to-snack when they want some peace or bribe their kids with chocolates. Soon the kids start arm-twisting their parents into giving chocolates on daily basis, and then those poor things are called spoilt!
  4. Risk the lives of their young kids by taking them on scooter / bike rides without helmets, and taking very young ones on the 2-wheelers at all. When I look at such cases, I am always scared that the kid may decide to jump off the scooter any moment.
  5. Strap their kids on Prams or put their little ones in the super market push carts, and go to fetch their stuff. We all know it is too, too dangerous.
  6. Haven’t taught their kids the benefits of healthy eating habits. Their children don’t find anything exciting enough to eat unless it has been packed in a colourful plastic and branded.
  7. Find their kids hitting other kids but just smile or shrug off the whole thing. Well, if my child gets hurt, I am not going to take it lightly.
  8. Take their little ones for movies which are not meant for kids. And sometimes, take very young kids who are anyways not meant to stare at the big screen for 2-3 hours while also being subjected to extremely loud sound.

So, do you have reasons to judge other Mommies and Daddies too?

Reema Sahay is a Stay-At-Home-Mom, Freelance Writer, Voracious Reader, Passionate Blogger, Social Media Enthusiast, Internet Junkie and Ex-Marketing Communication Professional. She spends her days running after her very curious toddler, ‘the star’, and catching up on books when he naps. She writes about charms and challenges of life at Pen Paper and shares her passion for books at Recommend Books. She sometimes feels that her 5.5 years stint in Marketing Communication was in another life

  • sirisha achanta

    Oh hmm touchy subject/.. but you know the parents you have listed are plenty in number…we are so out numbered 🙁 I especially get really irked by the parents who think getting a toddler to a theatre is ok

    • Reema Sahay

      And there are many who get their kids along to the theatre. What is more worrying is that some movies are only for Adults.

  • Divya Rao

    Hehe .. The title line excited me to read …
    Parents of 7 and 8 !! Oh my god !! Don’t even get me started ..

    • Reema Sahay

      I am sure you would also have a list.

  • Jairam Mohan

    Oh wow, what a list, all of these wonderful items are on my list of complaints too, but then, hey, who am I to judge how these people bring their kids up, right…

    • Reema Sahay

      Yes, of course, you are right. It is not the right thing to do but I get more flustered in case of safety and health issues.

  • Nail on the head, Reema. But will the post enter their heads, even though there’s quite a lot of space up there? I greatly doubt that! 😉

    I like how you have vent it out. Shows you are concerned about their kids. 🙂

    • Reema Sahay

      Sakshi, if they came around to reading it, I will be a social outcast soon ha ha. There is no good way to say these things to other people!

  • V ki Amma

    I have a few to add:

    1) People who let their kids drag their nannies like she is a pet on a leash.

    2) Parents who let their kids use foul language and their strength on their nannies

    3) Parents who let their kids eat using their hands without washing them

    4) Parents who let their kids visit someone’s home and allow them to jump on the bed without once telling them that they may fall.

    5) Parents who forget to bolt their doors and allow their toddlers to climb up and down stairs unassisted

    And there are more…I wrote a piece on it almost a month ago.

    http://www.parentous.com/2012/10/16/parenting-formula-rituparna-ghosh/

    • Reema Sahay

      Yes, yes and yes on all these. And I don’t know how I missed this post. Thank you for the link 🙂

  • Nischala

    Reema – “Duniya shikayaton se achi jagah banti…tho.. kya kuch nahin ho sakta”.. I don’t judge parents / children (atleast to the best of my ability and control) – To each his / her own. I agree that it is about creating habits and being live examples to your children. Easy to theorize, read and write, but tough to follow for many a parent. Once again, well written!

    • Reema Sahay

      Ha ha true Nischala. But when we are frustrated with certain things, we just want to vent out; whether it makes any difference or not is a different matter. And certainly, we all want to be the model parents for our children but at best we can try.

  • Sid Balachandran

    @reemasahay:disqus – Interesting post; And I’ve very sure that each of us can still find a ton of other things to add to the list, and it’s just going to get longer and longer. I’m willing to stake a bet that none of those parents are/will be reading these lists. Whilst I’m sure none of us are the epitomes of “ideal parents”, the fact that we care does give us the right to be occasionally judgemental of other parents. As a parting thought, though the blame almost 100% lies with that particular “kid’s” parents, I suppose kids pick up funny behaviours from other kids at schools too. So maybe parents in general need to step up 🙂

    • Reema Sahay

      Of course Sid. I realize that we are all trying to do our best. I always think about it that there are things that I do for my son and there are things that I don’t do, while the mommy next door chooses to do some other set of things, and so on. So, I judge other people, other people judge me 🙂

  • Dear Reema,

    You can’t be further from the truth. You know, sometimes, I have seen mothers use their children as swords to get even with other mothers who they don’t like or envy…
    It’s horrid you know when your child grows up thinking that if my mother is angry with somebody I should be too. It is not the child’s battle….

    • Reema Sahay

      Oh God! what a strange world!