• ronita

    That’s the difficult part, my daughter also goes to singing class initially her teacher said not to force her ,let her just sit and be there and at home to not force her to sing ….let her continue like this for a year and thereafter if she has the knack she will if not then fine. These are actually things of passion and we can never force it but we can try it …experiment without much expectation…if it works fine if not then also fine…

  • I have a quick question for you – how old is your daughter? I am a semi-professional Bharatanatyam dancer and have taught kids. Personally I would not recommend kids younger than 5 started dance. It puts them off dance for quite a while. I am sure her teacher knows the best but still that could be a reason why she is not very interested

  • “We should let a 4-year-old decide only up to a limit. Letting her quit this time will teach her to give up at slightest inconvenience.” – I would agree with this. And the quotation you mention at the end of the article from Amy Chua is one I would follow too. Children have a very short and volatile attention span, and just the next day can see them loving what seemed boring the previous day. Nice write-up, Divya!

  • ParentEdge

    I totally agree with you. One of the lessons that our children must learn is that of resilience – with instant gratification and immense choice ruling the day, children find it easy to give up very easily and hop from one thing to another. It is important that they learn to persevere at something, and if need be, also learn to deal with failure.
    What Chua says in her book strikes a chord – many of us did not like our music or dance lessons when we began them, but over time, as we gained proficiency and mastery, we started enjoying them more.
    Of course, where we draw the line and realise that our children really do not like something to the extent that it is traumatising them, is something that is best decided by each parent. But like you said, maybe ‘it’s boring’ is not a good enough reason to quit.
    We could reach a compromise suggesting to them that they stick on to something for a term, for 6 months, etc and then decide how they want to proceed.
    Kritika Srinivasan
    http://www.parentedge.in