• “The zeal to shield the children from negatives of life is so much in us that we tend to forget that every mature human being has the right to take his or her own decisions and face the consequences of those decisions.” – AND, as parents, The Protective Ones, we never want to believe that they are ever ‘mature’ enough to make the right decisions and take control of their lives. You know, Yamini, this post makes me think and think back to what my parents must be thinking about me growing on without them, even as I shudder to think that my son would be “on his own” tomorrow! 🙂 It’s a chain – of TLC, Protectiveness, Thoughts, Reins, Dissent and lots of Love. One era makes way for another, but some things will never change, even if man reaches Jupiter one fine day! 😀 Beautifully interspersed with questions that I too seek answers to. And mostly sit back feeling a little scared, and a lot more protective! 🙂

  • sirisha achanta

    Its the circle of life. I left behind my parents and flew across seas without blinking once about the decision and I know my daughter will too one day. I just hope I would have done enough for her to warrant a phone call a week ,20 years later.

  • Jairam Mohan

    “Parenting is somewhat akin to what Lord Krishna says in the Geeta – You only have the right to duty, and not the right to the fruits it will yield. It might be a thankless job, but we, as parents, have certainly not taken it up for the sake of the thanks.”

    This last paragraph well and truly summarizes my thoughts on this particular post. You should not at any cost get attached to your children lest they become so independent, or so different an individual from what you imagine that reconciliation with that fact becomes impossible for us at a later stage in life. We need to be pragmatic, practical and approach parenting with an extremely detached mindset. We need to imbibe good values in them, provide them with the basic necessities and give them a good education. After this is done, we need to cut loose the apron strings and let them be adults of their own making.

    All this is what I feel now when my lil girl is all of 2 yrs old. God only knows what I will be feeling when she starts going to high school, college and wherever else when she is a teenager…

  • स्वाति जैन

    yes u have to shake mommy-and grown up pair to be mature enuf to let it go and also to express where needed and at times, saying the unsaid works…

    there is very common herbrew phrase…”This too shall pass…”. One should accept this fact at the earliest possible…
    but like u even i have 3+ yr toddler and and the very thought of detachment is frightening…