I have become a pro mom now, or at least I would like to think that. Anyways, I don’t qualify of being a new mum; it’s been 2.5 years and I, like all mums did learn the hard way. Now when I look at my Mommy journey so far, there are moments which make me feel so stupid. There were silly things which gave me sleepless night.
Below I present my top 10 Things I can’t believe I was worried about as a Mom -
- Newborn Zoe was really small, when she was born and weighed a little less than the minimum weight required, the doctor said there is not a problem, but I cried, cried and cried. I had major postpartum depression and I was scared to hold my baby as well. Now when I see Little Miss Z running around I get all dew-eyed. And the same time I feel I did overreact.
- When Zoe was a little baby I brought her home… Fizz and I took care of baby Z alone, though we could have got help. When Z was a baby, she used to get these bouts of hiccups which made me turn into a wreck. I looked for help on net, consulted Dr. Spoc but nothing worked. Till one day these bouts just stopped like a magic.
- What food should I introduce and if at all I give her packed baby food, is Cerelac better or Gerber? I’m a lousy cook and cooking for Z, preparing her menu, made me tensed because I wanted to make sure I was doing it all right. Zoe did not have Ragi in any form and I heard great things about Ragi, but Z just didn’t have it. I became tensed and depressed, till I realised it was OK, like we have food preferences even kids have them. When I gave Cerelac to Zoe for the first time, I was scared and I kept an eye on Zoe for at least a day after she was fed. My baby was in love with Rice Cerelac and that made me nervous AGAIN.
- Is my Pediatrician right for my baby? The pediatrician who was there when Zoe was born was the greatest I could have asked for. Then we shifted to Bangalore. Then began my hunt for a new pediatrician and I had visited 3 doctors here already. I was so worried whether Z’s pediatrician is the best we could have asked for… Now I know I would only be happy and satisfied if I convince my pediatrician from Delhi to come over to Bangalore. Now when I see my current ped, I feel she is good and we’re in safe hands.
- Zoe started cruising at 8.5 months and she became a pro at cruising but she walked only at 14 months. I read everything, ate my pediatrician’s head up and checked with other moms if I was doing anything wrong. Then one magical moment arrived and it just happened.
- Now Zoe has been a picky eater for almost a year and things are just getting worse. She does not eat anything at times and there are days when she eats everything nicely. I tried making every toddler food and tried everything under the sun… but nothing worked… NOTHING. It’s only now that I realise, if she wants to eat she will eat the basic Dal Chawal or Paratha also. But if she does not want to eat, you give her anything Mac & Cheese, Fries, Pancake or anything, she will not take even a bite.
- Potty Training… aah potty training, I was scared and did not know how to do it and what to do. Zoe at 32 months is completely pee trained and we never ‘train-train’ her in the real sense of the word. We waited till she was ready, and voila… I guess that was the right thing to do.
- What’s the right age to start school? In our times it was easy, 3+ was the age to start school. Now it’s never too soon… This was followed by a series of research till I came to know about Montessori mode of education and I fell in love with it. 2.5 years it was, and that is when Zoe started school. Now people do tell us, would it be easy to get admission in Std. 1 and I just say I have complete faith in the foundation she is getting at a Montessori.
- Once school was picked and Zoe got admitted I started dreading about her 1st day at school. Now when I see Z settle down and talking about her friends/school/teachers all day long I just smile and say to myself, “Why Oh! Why was I worried?”
- I always am worried (this has been my longest concern till date) whether I’m a good mum or not because Z is turning into daddy’s girl with each passing day. That has also been tackled to a certain extent and here is what makes me happy.
I have still not stopped worrying about many stupid things, but I don’t become a nervous wreck now. Guess that is a good thing. What say?
A story-teller, a Communication Trainer, a Parenting Blogger, a wife to her best friend and mum to the most adorable 2-year-old – Zoe. Falak Randerian, plays many roles, her favorite Being Zoe’s Mom. She runs story telling & communication workshop for kids My Little Chatterbox. You can read her personal blog Being Zoe’s Mom and her parenting website which she runs along with her elder sister www.momsters.in .