• yes, we need to teach our kids to brave and act smart in such situations..

    • janu

      Yes, we must. Thank you Ashreyamom.

  • Wow!!
    You showed guts! That itself is a fine example for your daughter.
    Gaalis come with age and time. Though women rarely, if ever, utter them, its not as if they never do. Using them at the right time can be effective.
    Your son must be your knight in shining armor 🙂
    Nice post.

  • janu

    Thank you so much. I am fortunate that my son understands what I went through. He was hurt and upset. Probably this will make him respect woman. Thanks Noor.

  • Its a terrible feeling Janaki…I am squirming reading about it again and again !!! And I am glad that you are so courageous and had the instinct to raise your arm.

    Yes, we need to teach our children to stand up against such molesters and other scum of the society.

  • So well written Janaki. So perfect.. after listening to your inner voice, you are so write in your thoughts and yes we face them all the time and its time to teach your children to defend themselves.

    • janu

      Thanks Archana, glad we all think the same.

  • janu

    Thanks Uma. It was the best I could do at that moment….could have done this, must have done this….all these realization comes later. It was a reality check to my daughter. My hubby is over protective of us.

  • Hmmmm…this incident is unfortunately so common but the mindset you explained is so thought-provoking……being a mother of a daughter this dilemma is always in my mind that ‘how to teach my girl to face these situations without exposing herself to any danger’
    kudos to you for facing that creep….i still remember how i slapped one such slime few years back.

    • janu

      NBose….we cannot monitor our children/daughters always. We can tell them the right and the wrong. Its for them to choose and act upon it. Hope she did learn something from this.
      Thank you.

  • Rachna Parmar

    That was very brave of you, Janaki! Yes, we have to teach our kids to stand up for themselves and not cower when faced with such situations. What better way than to teach by your behavior.

    • janu

      Thank you Rachna….the reaction comes from previous experiences.

  • vasudha

    As we never anticipate such situations,we refrain from teaching our kids swear words.But we must teach them such words as they are the first line of defence in some instances.

    • janu

      They will learn eventually Vasuda…experience makes them smart. Thank you.

  • Our children will learn the abuses and in time, they’ll also learn not to share with their parents the traumatic events that they go through, and that is the scary part for any parent. But most importantly, will also learn to look after themselves and stand up to bullies – just the way you did!

  • janu

    True Corinne. We just hope and wish that they don’t have to go through these situations. Thanks.

  • I remember slapping one guy who squeezed my butt in a crowded movie theatre…. the crowd found it hilarious and the guy had the sense to look ashamed. I was also told by one of my mausis to carry a safety pin with me when I traveled in public transport and to stab any hand that had the misfortune to stray!! I found that advice to be so useful!! We should all teach our daughters these practical tips instead of trying to restrict their movements all the time!

    • janu

      I used to carry a paper cutter back when I was in college…sadly, never used it.
      Thanks Roshni.

  • You had great presence of mind to see what was coming. Very well dealt situation including putting it on pen and paper, i mean in your blog.

  • janu

    Thank you Indrani. This is a wonderful platform to share.

  • This incident will go a long way in shaping up the confidence and the mental strength your daughter will no doubt need in her travails – well done!!

  • janu

    Thank you Meena.

  • Real brave act Janaki! Yes we should teach our kids to be brave and alert enough to handle such situations, it surely is the need of the hour.

  • janu

    Thanks Anamika.

  • hmhm… yeah, handling tough situations has become the need of the hour. And you showed your kid something that could not be just taught. Pride and Guts.

    The one thing that bothers me is that- why is that some people behave like this. Whats the root cause behind them? Parenting gone wrong perhaps.

    • janu

      Thanks Muthu…the first male blogger to read my post here. We have male perverts…females do not act like this in public. Maybe some kind of disease plagues them? Your guess is as good as mine.

  • Oh, what a scary experience, Janu! You did absolutely the right thing and modeled for your daughter what she, too, should do if she ever finds herself in that horrid situation. May it never happen again, my friend!
    Blessings!

    • janu

      Thank you Martha.