Of Birthdays and Dilemmas

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  • http://ashreyamom.wordpress.com ashreyamom

    well norri, i too had similar kind of dilemma , should i call my office mates or just call the Bunty’s friends.. in the end, i wanted Bunty to feel comfortable and be by herself, wanted to attend her than the elite guest. so i called only her friends, the 3 neighbors on my floor. my mom enjoyed preparing food for her beloved grand daughter and kids enjoyed the most.. Bunty liked it as she was the attraction, everybody gave her gifts that she liked.. :)..
    i am too scared of exposing kids to the other side of world..just throwing away money is not the only way of celebrating..

  • http://onboardthemommyship.wordpress.com/ Rituparna Ghosh

    My son turned in September and while I have shared his growing up on social networking sites and through my blog, many friends asked…so what’s happening for V’s birthday? What special plans? We didn’t do anything. Not because it isn’t special for us. It’s the one day in my life that I want to repeat all over again…but then the boy is too young to understand the fuss around the birthday. I wish to keep it till he turns 5, because its a traditional Bengali thing. But I am aware that in the next five years he would be invited for birthday parties. I’m prepared to have a tough time explaining to him why we dont celebrate his birthday…and I am already planning my answers!

  • http://penpaper.blogspot.com Reema Sahay

    I also did not throw a party when my son turned one recently. The point is it is his day and he should be the one who must enjoy the most. A one-year old is not made for parties. One year olds have a cycle of feeding-napping-playing going on the whole day, a party just disturbs the whole thing and the child gets cranky! I also somehow want to disassociate the cake and party routine with birthdays or any kind of celebration for that matter. Why are they so sacrosanct these days! I hate any kind of branded merchandise like ben10, dora, disney but recently I found that there was not a single shoe in my son’s size without a cartoon character. Phew, I can go on and on, but the bottomline is there is too much commercialisation and parents need to exercise some restraint. We don’t want our kids to value materials more than people and experiences, do we?

    • http://momofrs.wordpress.com Noor

      Exactly my point Reema.
      We need to teach our children to value people more than things.
      There are plenty of fun ways to celebrate a birthday, a party is just one of them.
      I think till the kids are young, its better to explore the options and let them decide how they would like to celebrate it. What say?

  • http://www.mumsphere.com Vandana M Khemka

    your post just reminds me of my mom favorite saying that family learn to love and share when they have very few things and unlimited time for eachother:)

    If I happen to teach this one thing to my daughter…I think I have done my bit..

  • Meera

    I couldn’t agree more with you … It’s seems like the lesser time parents have with kids, the grander the birthday parties are. At the risk of generalizing, parties at home with innovative & interesting games are def more fun. Awesome article!

    • http://momofrs.wordpress.com Noor

      Thanks Meera….I think the best gift we can give the kids is our time.
      And by personal experience(I’m a full-time professional), I can claim that the kids don’t ask for anything else!

  • http://www.momofbigalittlea.blogspot.com Roshni

    whew! Thank God I am in the US….I seemed to have escaped all this tamasha!! Event managers for a child’s birthday party!???

  • http://beingzoesmum.blogspot.in/ Falak Randerian

    Loved the post and believe each and every word of it. I’m a mom of an almost 2 year old. Her 1st birthday meant a quiet family vacation and we’re planning to do the same for her second birthday. I know she starts school next year and in a couple of years she would want her friends to come over. I wouldn’t mind that… but I know where to draw a line. Spending a fortune is absolute no-no. As you said, all kids want is to enjoy… and didn’t we enjoy the wonderful get-to-gethers we used to have when we were kids.

    I feel birthdays are becoming as a mode to show-off for parents than anything else.