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  • http://shilpaagarg.blogspot.in Shilpa Garg

    With changing times, the parenting styles have to change too and the need of the hour is to be more open and more communicative with your children.
    Your daughters are very lucky to have parents like you Uma! :)

    • http://umsreflections.wordpress.com UmaS

      Yes Shilpa, there is a need for changing parenting styles and I wished to make a difference to my girls. Thank you so much, I too consider myself lucky to have such understanding daughters :)

      Hugs to you :) Becos of you, I contributed to Parentous and now I am so happy !!!

  • http://www.lafemmenirvana.blogspot.in Meena

    Wow!! I am a terrified parent as of now – my daughter is nine and I have no clue when or how to break the proverbial ice on this!!! Your post was awesome!

    • http://umsreflections.wordpress.com UmaS

      Meena, I just know that you as a mother will perfectly break that proverbial ice, when the time comes. Its just that you need to be honest and look into her eyes while talking !!! The daughters are so understanding…hugs !!!

  • Amrita Thavrani

    Glad for such open and honest post. I remember in my early teens only I had the answer to the question “from where does the baby comes” , and the reason was my mom’s practical and no-fuss answers to me during our open conversations those days. You have lucky daughters, tell them that also :)

    • http://umsreflections.wordpress.com UmaS

      Thank you Amrita :) ha ha …of course, I’ll tell them !!!

  • http://ashreyamom.wordpress.com ashreyamom

    thats a great lesson learnt from ur post Uma.. i know i want to be free worth my daughter, but didnt know how? your post really helped me to plan.. i am sure your daughters will look beyond the dirty pages..

    • http://umsreflections.wordpress.com UmaS

      Am so glad that mothers like you are finding something to learn from here – my post. That gives me the satisfaction of things done right :)

      Hugs Asheryamom…waiting to know how your plan materializes :)

  • http://www.shocksandshoes.blogspot.com Fab

    That is really a great post!! So many parents think that we’re introducing our children to promiscuity when we talk to them about sex, but they don’t realize that we’re actually providing them an open channel of communication by doing so. But at the same time, we also need to teach our children the difference between good and bad touch, because it’s not sex itself that is ‘dirty’, it’s when it’s forced or at the wrong time, with the wrong person and at the wrong place. I’ll echo what everyone has said, ‘Your daughters are lucky to have you!!’.

    • http://umsreflections.wordpress.com UmaS

      Thank you Fab :) This kind of openness between parents and children will go a long way in dealing with other issues or actually prevent some issues from cropping up !!!

      Hugs…I too consider myself lucky, for if not for them I wouldn’t have learnt parenting this way !!!

  • http://vevisia.blogspot.in vevisia

    Wow! Thats sort of a dream for me now that I can be able to talk freely to my daughter in her teens :) Hopely I ll follow you some day.

    • http://umsreflections.wordpress.com UmaS

      Yes, Vevisia…I am waiting to see your dream come true !!! :)

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  • http://www.nodelusions.blogspot.com Bins

    Very cool article. Very smart woman! 😀

    • http://umsreflections.wordpress.com UmaS

      Hey…thanks Bins :)

  • http://mannbikram.wordpress.com Bikramjit Singh Mann

    Ah ha first of all, Now I have a face to go with the name :)

    I beleive talking always helps for anything .. and in todays age the earlier we talk to the kids the better it is for the ywill as such hear and see it on other places like the internet and alll ..

    a lovely article :)

    • http://umsreflections.wordpress.com UmaS

      Thank you Bikram :) To make the children come to the parents for everything is a great thing and I am totally glad to have made that difference.

      Face to go with the name huh ??? :)

  • http://wordsndreamz.wordpress.com Smitha

    Love, love this post, Uma! I have so much to learn from mothers like you. I just hope I am able to handle it in the beautiful manner you did.

    • http://umsreflections.wordpress.com UmaS

      Thanks Smithu :) Oh yeah, you’ll do fantastic…may be better than what I did. Then you’ll do a more fab post on that 😉 Hugs

  • http://ruminateatleisure.wordpress.com/ Bindu

    Just loved this post Uma!
    It is so very important to be open with your kids so that they don’t go else where for the answers.
    Isn’t it strange how men who fail to understand their wives so automatically become such empathetic fathers? 😉

    • http://umsreflections.wordpress.com UmaS

      Thanks Bindu :) Exactly, that’s what I really wanted to do.

      Tell me about it…not a day goes by when I dont tell that matter of truth about empathetic fathers to ppl !!! 😉

  • http://goingbeyondthepages.wordpress.com Jaspreet

    I am terrified. My son is just 5 and I am already having visions how would I explain things to him.

    • http://umsreflections.wordpress.com UmaS

      Thank you for your kind words Jaspreet !!! I wish that you dont get terrified…just be yourself and honest too !!! :) Hugs

  • http://goingbeyondthepages.wordpress.com Jaspreet

    Forgot to say it was a very well written article :)

  • http://thatslifemyfriend.wordpress.com Ashwathy

    I think you have made a massive transition from the orthodox background you were brought up in… to the kind of liberal upbringing you are giving your kids today. Big hugs to you! Your kids are really lucky to have you :)

    • http://umsreflections.wordpress.com UmaS

      Hey, thanks dear :) I am glad to have made that transition, which is greatly helping my girls !!! Hugs

  • http://viveksramblings.wordpress.com Vivek

    I am sure your daughters will carry on this enlightened tradition.

    • http://umsreflections.wordpress.com UmaS

      Am sure they will !!! Thanks

  • Meera

    Bang on! Awesome article uma! This kind of discussion is very essential for mother daughter/son bonding! Great to know that you handed it well and it’s such a pleasure to be the first person they come to right?

    • http://umsreflections.wordpress.com UmaS

      Oh yeah…I actually give myself a pat on the back for doing this “talk” with them !!! It terrified me sometimes, if I’ve done the right thing. But I believed in my intuition to do so !!!

      Thank you Meera :)

  • http://www.momofbigalittlea.blogspot.com Roshni

    Being a mom of two sons, I was confident that my husband will do the honors….but he’s just being a coward, so in the end, it looks like I will be the one who will embarrass my two boys!! 😀

    • http://umsreflections.wordpress.com UmaS

      Roshini, am so glad to read your comment :) I’ve been waiting to know the story of a mom who has had such conversations with her son. Please do share your experience, if its ok with you…

      I’ve always thought its the father who talks with the sons on these things. So, am waiting for a post from you, actually :)

  • http://www.readingthroughrsmind.wordpress.com R’s Mom

    Loved loved loved loved this post…and you are so beautiful :)

    • http://umsreflections.wordpress.com UmaS

      Thank you so much R’s Mom :) Hugs.

  • dhana

    hats off to you uma, for this post and the bold step you have taken, which i couldnt dare to, fearing questions like your girls did. yes, our kids shd come to us first to clear their doubts, instead of going to outside sources. this kind of openness with kids is necessary nowadays bcos see, i entered facebook at this age! my son at his teens? realising this late i try to be liberal with my son and that makes a difference. hope in future atleast he wud be free to discuss anything with us. your post is a boost to parents like me. keep going.

    • http://umsreflections.wordpress.com UmaS

      Thanks a lot Dhana. It did raise many an eyebrows for being so honest with my girls, among our family circle or for allowing them to read all kind of books. But thats a call I took, for I wanted to talk about it to them, in the right way and not wait for them to read some shit and google about it to learn it all wrong !!!

      Yes, I would suggest that at least now, you talk to your children, just to know that they’ve got it right in their mind.

      Hugs mommy :)